Wedding vision? It can often times be a tricky concept. Shortly after a couple gets engaged the questions about theme, floral design, color scheme, bridesmaid dresses, etc. come out in a flurry. Overwhelming? Of course! Enter: All in the Details. We love helping couples figure out their wedding vision and helping guide them through confusing decisions.
It’s not our vision that counts, it’s yours!
A wedding vision isn’t just the items listed above and ambiance however, it involves so much more. Is your vision to follow Emily Post’s etiquette book to a “T”? If so, that’s great! Or rather, is your vision to throw the so-to-speak rule book out the window and lead your own path? That’s outstanding! Or maybe your vision is somewhere in-between the two. Guess what? That’s fabulous as well! How are all of these scenarios not only acceptable but outstanding? Simple. At All in the Details, “it’s not vision that counts, it’s yours.” Emphasis on “yours.” It’s your day, you do it your way! We’ll gladly guide you through the path you choose.
Sounds great, right? As owner and executive planner of All in the Details, I enjoy writing about my experiences and offering advice. Today, I’m offering a rare glimpse into my past to show how I paved my own path for my wedding nearly six years ago. What was my path? I like to think it was a mix of formality and originality.
Why am I sharing this? To show you that we practice what we preach and that it’s your wedding- so you get to make the rules.
Pre-wedding Breaking Tradition
Another key pre-wedding concept for my now husband and I was that we did not want a traditional bachelor or bachelorette party. We both have nothing against them, it just wasn’t for us. Instead, we told a bunch of people we were going on a quick weekend vacation to Las Vegas together. If people wanted to join- great! The more the merrier!
I know…Las Vegas is such a cliche; however, thanks to Bookit.com we got an amazingly cheap deal that was too good to pass up. The deal was so great that a lot of our friends decided to vacation with us.
In the end, for a variety of reasons, this option was the best for us. One thing we really loved was that when it came time for our wedding, many of our friends who had not known each other prior to this vacation were great friends by then. Plus, we made lifelong memories and had a blast.
Wedding day-We did it our way.
I’ll be the first to admit that we were very fortunate with our wedding. The traditional aspects could be felt through the ceremony at the grand St. John the Evangelist and the reception at the Scottish Rite Cathedral. That’s not to say, however, that we didn’t do a lot of cost-saving measures along the way (but that’s for another blog). For now, here are some examples of how we paved our own path for this occasion; sometimes throwing the rule book out the window.
(Note: Some trends and styles have obviously changed since our wedding day.)
A special gift between friends
I wanted to do something special when asking each of my bridesmaids to stand at my side. I ended up getting each of them a custom charm made on a silver bangle. Each charm had etched into it a different word reflecting how she inspired me to be a better person.
On the day of the wedding, each bridesmaid wore their custom bangle and I had a corresponding copy of each of their charms with their unique word on my bouquet.
After the wedding, I had all of the charms from my bouquet put onto a charm bracelet for me to wear so that I could be inspired by, and always remember, the lovely ladies who stood by my side.
No petals for us
Pick your dress
May I have this dance?
Instead of having guests seated at dinner tables during our first dance, we kept everything upstairs on the balcony looking down. Being the Purdue Boilermakers that we are, we entered to “Hail Purdue” and gave guests Purdue pom poms to wave. Boiler Up!
The gift that keeps on giving
Late night surprises
A separate kid’s party
Not perfect, but perfect for us
Was our wedding perfect? Not by a long shot! It poured all day, the bus driver hit a statue, grandparents got stuck in the parking garage, a bridesmaid broke her toe…I could go on and on. You know what though? None of that mattered. Things happen. What mattered was that I got to marry by best friend with my friends and family by my side.
It may not have been a perfect wedding, but it was perfect for us.
Why? Because we did it our way.
I encourage you to do the same.